A business man, Taiwo Okunola, has approached Ile Tuntun Customary Court, Mapo, Ibadan, Oyo State, seeking the dissolution of his four-year-old marriage to his wife, Serifat Okunola and the custody of their only child.
Taiwo alleged that his wife had usurped his position as head of the home and now gives orders and directs the affairs of their home.
He added that she was always finding fault in all that he did and often times fought him.
“My wife has turned me into an object of pity before my family members and a laughing stock before my friends.
“She has usurped my position as the head of the home and now dictates how the home should be run. She has abandoned all the roles expected of a woman in the home and goes out and comes in whenever she likes. She has virtually turned me into a househelp.
“My lord, I sweep the floor, dust the furniture and wash the clothes because my wife is not bothered if the house is clean or not. She’s also used to piling up dirty clothes in the room. She has also abandoned her responsibility of cooking for the home. I cook the food and she sits down and eat. Sometimes after eating and licking her hands and the plate, she will complain that the food was not well cooked or delicious.
“Any time we have visitors, she would ask me in their presence to go and prepare food for them, “ he told the court.
“We once had a misunderstanding and she sent me out of the house along with our only child who was then two years old. She later came back begging and I forgave her and we moved back home. It is now a regular thing to beg her before we make love. And when we do, she ensures I don’t enjoy it.
“The last time we fought, she sent me out of the house and threatened to kill me if I ever returned.
“I’m tired of fighting and playing the role of a housemaid. Please, separate us and order her to allow me pack my belongings out of her house, “he said.
“My husband is nothing but useless,“ the defendant told the court.
“He’s not fit to be called a man. He makes so much noise as being the head of the home, but he has shed his responsibility as husband and father. I single handedly set up a lucrative business for him as a means of livelihood and has been pumping money into it on a regular basis, but this is yielding nothing because he is not just diligent.
“I also rented an apartment and he moved in with me. I pay the rent yearly. He doesn’t know how much the rent is.
“Our marriage has produced just a child who he finds difficult to cater for. I feed and clothe my husband and our child. I’m also responsible for our child’s education, the defendant stated.
“I bought a car for the family and registered it in his name as any faithful wife would do. He has been cruising around in this and telling everyone he bought it.
“I recently discovered he had been selling my property in the house without my consent. When I asked him, he denied it. He moved out of the house recently after we had a misunderstanding and went away with the car.
“My lord, I’m also ready for divorce. I pray for the custody of our child and want my car returned.”
The court president, Chief Agbaje Olasunkanmi, after listening to the two parties, ordered that the case be adjourned till March 14 and directed that they bring their parents or relatives along.
Both parties came with their relatives on the stated day and the court president asked if any step had been taken on reconciliation.
Both parties insisted on divorce while their relatives also gave their consent.
Olasunkanmi, therefore, ruled that their marriage be dissolved and awarded the custody of the child to the defendant.
The plaintiff was asked to pay N3, 000 monthly as the child’s feeding allowance and take responsibility for his education and health care.
The defendant was ordered to allow the plaintiff pack his belongings from her house.
Speaking on the car, Olasunkanmi explained that the customary court only has jurisdiction on the issue of their marriage. He, therefore, advised the defendant to pursue the case at the high court.
According to a report by H-Metro, in a sermon shown live on his Victory TV, the preacher equated the power of Jik to the blood of Jesus which he said is multi-purpose.
Many people were pictured queuing to have their hands washed with the detergent. Among them women whom the preacher prophesied to have had engaged in abortions when they were young.
He called the people whom he said had sin and blood in their hands for the cleansing resulting in a scramble with some people falling in trance and manifestation. “I just hope people will not misinterpret the message being sent here,” he said.
“The message behind is accept Jesus in your life as written in the Bible and your life will be cleaned of everything, sin, disease or any situation. This is what I expressed with the use of jik. This jik is multi-purpose, you can use it to clean your water, wash clothes, as a toilet cleaner and in many other situations, just like the power of Jesus.
“These days we will have all our sermons on our TV network, Victory TV so that people will have a clear picture of what would have transpired,” Sanyangore said.
The preacher was the first to have his hands washed and he said it was a demonstration that everyone should be always clean.
“Bible rinoti zvireururei mazuva ose meaning tinotadza saka tinofanira kuchenurwa. Even those who are pure should be cleansed to be more pure. We use jik on white material for it to become brighter. Water is pure by the look of the eye but still we apply jik for it to be more pure and safe for drinking,” he said.
Policemen in Ado Ekiti on Friday brutalised and detained a woman, Mrs. Toyin Adeyeye, her two month-old baby, Heritage and her younger brother, Adeniyi Dada, for allegedly refusing to give bribe at a police checkpoint, Punch Metro reports.
It was learnt that about five policemen descended on them and beat them mercilessly before taking them to New Iyin Police Station where the beating continued.
The incident happened at the checkpoint in front of Ekiti Pavilion, a few metres from the residence of the Commissioner of Police, Abdullah Chafe.
Mrs. Adeyeye returned from the United States of America 10 days earlier where she was delivered of the baby.
The police also impounded the black Kia Picanto car with registration number LAGOS FKJ 221 EE in which they were.
Speaking with reporters on Saturday, the woman’s husband, Mr. Akanni Adeyeye, decried the alleged brutality meted out to his wife with lacerations on her body and bruises on the face.
Adeyeye who slept in the police station in solidarity with his wife explained that the policemen requested for vehicle particulars and driver’s licence of his brother-in-law who drove the car which were still valid.
He said one of the policemen withheld the documents demanding that they be “settled,” a euphemism for bribe but Mrs. Adeyeye and her brother refused because the vehicles papers were valid.
Adeyeye said,”My wife and her brother were returning from the market at about 3.00pm on Friday and on arrival at the checkpoint in front of the Pavilion very close to their station, they asked for all vehicle papers and driver’s licence which were produced and they are valid.
“After checking all the documents, the policemen were demanding for money to be given as ‘settlement’ which my wife and her brother refused. My wife drew their attention to the baby that was crying in the car.
“Five of them were beating her at the point of arrest and on getting to the station, the beating continued. After thoroughly beating her, they obtained her statement around 10.00pm. There are wounds on the back of my wife and face to show for it.
“On getting to the station, they now cooked up a story that my wife slapped one of them and tore his uniform which is a lie. They are telling this lie to justify their action of their cruelty to my wife, my baby and my brother-in-law.
“Neither my wife nor her brother slapped any policeman or tore any uniform. The question to be asked is how would somebody who is not armed attack an armed policeman? They are cooking up this falsehood to cover up their brutality.”
The chairperson for Ekiti state chapter of Federation of International Women Lawyers, Mrs. Funke Anoma, said investigation had begun.
But reacting, the Commissioner of Police, claimed that Mrs. Adeyeye was detained for allegedly slapping a policeman on duty and tearing his uniform adding that the matter was still under investigation.
Chafe said,”Those people slapped my policeman on duty and tore their uniform. Uniform is an authority and what those people did was against the law and it is not good for a civilian to slap a policeman.
“It is not good for somebody to prevent a law enforcement officer from carrying out his lawful duty. Somebody wearing the uniform? It is not about his age but the authority he carries. I don’t allow my men to do something contrary to the law.
“I don’t want a woman to be detained with baby or with pregnancy. I don’t want an old woman or a minor to be detained. I have taken note of this and we will take the right action on the matter.”
The day would be remembered for a long time to come. In reputation and dread – the feeling it delivered won’t go away soon. And for those, who knew her even closely, the scars it brought, equally, would remain a constant reminder of that horrific experience.
Full of life and hopes as she sank into bed that evening, there was nothing to suggest that danger was hovering upon her head. Calm, loveable and loaded with lofty ambitions, Solape Oladipupo, a young female Air Force personnel, had no reason to fear. However, by the break of dawn, several hours after retiring to sleep – on the morning of Sunday, March 12, 2017, to be precise – everything went up in flames. Shomzy, as her friends fondly called her, was shot dead in the most brutal manner by the very person she had ‘shared’ her heart with in recent months. The Badagry, Lagos-born lady was killed by her lover and fellow military officer, Kalu Ben, at the Air Force Base in Makurdi, capital of Benue State.
One week after her death, family members and friends of the young woman are still locked in mourning, wondering how death snatched their jewel away so suddenly. They describe her demise as an irreplaceable loss.
“R.I.P Shomzy Shomzy, your death is something I can’t forget so easily because your military plans are still in your mind. Well I can’t continue crying my dear, all I have to do is to let go of what I can’t change,” one friend wrote on the Facebook page of the victim – succinctly capturing the general feeling of all those who knew her. Torrents of eulogies still flood the victim’s Facebook account.
But while the cold-blooded murder of Oladipupo still grips the nation like an incurable fever, her death is merely a minute fraction of the many senseless murders that have taken place across the country in recent weeks. Prompted to pull the ‘trigger’ at the slightest excitement, men, women – young and old – have continued to spill the blood of their loved ones in terrifying fashion, leaving dozens of individuals shocked to their marrows.
For example, on Thursday, March 9, a young doctor, Emmanuel Ogah, followed in the footsteps of Kalu in taking laws into his hands. Overwhelmed by his emotions and unable to contain his rage, he hacked his 62-year-old mother, Janet, a food vendor, to death in their Itele- Ota, Ogun State, home. The suspect, who is said to have returned home only three days before the incident after completing the one-year mandatory National Youth Service Corps scheme, confessed to committing the act because his mother was in the habit of insulting and disgracing him in the presence of her apprentices. He snuffed life out of her by inflicting several stabs on her stomach and other body parts. It was a gory sight.
That is not all. Days earlier, the spotlight shifted to Lagos’ capital, Ikeja, when Akinremi Street, a popular part of the town, was thrown into chaos. A 50-year-old Information and Communications Technology consultant, Mr. Kayode Oso, was murdered by his new employee, Precious Victor, in cahoots with two other accomplices – Kelechi Kalu and Ahmed Abubakar. The victim, who prior to that time had only hired the suspect to run a bar he just opened in the area, had arrived at the place that fateful Saturday afternoon to relax when the gang pounced on him. His family, friends and all those who knew him continue to live with the pains of his tragic demise.
“At about 4pm on that day, Kayode went to the bar. At a point, he had an argument with Victor and threatened to sack him. In what appeared to be a premeditated action, two other men came in and pounced on Kayode. They stabbed him in different parts of his body. When they saw that he had been injured and didn’t have any strength to struggle with them, they took his car key, locked him up in his office and fled. It was the police who later discovered his corpse at the place,” a friend to the deceased said.
Earlier in February, the nation woke up to the gory sight of the dismembered body of a mother of three, Sherifat Bello. The young woman was cut to pieces and dumped at an uncompleted building by her 36-year-old husband, Sakiru, under mysterious circumstances. By the time he was paraded by the police in Lagos, Bello’s body had started decomposing. The images were indeed tear-provoking.
“After we didn’t see Sherifat for days, I had to report the case to the Area ‘B’ Police Command. Sakiru pretended to be searching for her as well, not knowing that he had killed her. When we called him, he said he was somewhere in Ibadan and gave us an address but when we got to the place, he was not there. The police later arrested him in Lagos where he was hiding. He killed my daughter and cut her corpse into bits,” heartbroken father of the victim, revealed.
Elder sister of the deceased while giving more insight into the gruesome murder, said the culprit had had the plan of killing her in the pipeline for long. She said her sibling had complained of threats to her life on few occasions but that they never took it seriously until the incident finally happened.
“My sister was the one taking care of responsibilities in the home before she was killed. About a year ago, she told me that Sakiru wanted to use her for rituals; we never really took it seriously even though they became separated after the two families met following that issue. We never knew he was eventually going to kill her,” the middle-aged woman said, fighting back tears.
In December 2016, the Majidun, Ikorodu area of Lagos was thrown into mourning when a woman stabbed her husband to death with a kitchen knife over his failure to provide money for Christmas cooking. According to witnesses, the incident followed a heated confrontation between the couple – Mr. and Mrs. Romanus Odo, right inside their apartment.
“The wife prevented her husband from leaving the house, insisting that he must give her money to buy chicken for Christmas. She accused him of spending money on women and neglecting her and the children. Even the man later dropped N1,000, what we heard next was a shout for help. The woman had stabbed him to death with a knife. She had always threatened to kill him one day and eventually made good her threat,” one neighbour said.
A few days before then, news of another premeditated murder made the rounds again after a 22-year-old Cameroonian domestic worker, Joel Ludguo, stabbed his boss, Temidayo Adeleke, to death in the Ikoyi area of Lagos.
According to witnesses, Ludguo killed the young woman after she failed to accede to his demand of N15,000 – part payment of his December salary, so he could make a short trip. Adeleke’s death came a few days after she returned to the country from the United States and only weeks away from her marriage. Family members are yet to fully come over the calamity.
“Madam usually gave him money apart from his salary and even bought him a new phone after employing him. She treated him very well but Joel still went ahead to kill her. Her death is a huge loss for all of us,” a family friend of the victim, said.
Sad as it is, these cases merely capture the rising wave of premeditated murders in Nigeria in recent weeks. While only a handful of these gruesome killings are reported, hundreds others never get to be heard of each year in many of the country’s over 774 local government areas. In 2016 alone, Lagos recorded around 246 murder cases, up from the 220 cases witnessed the previous year. For a city with a bulging population and the propensity for individuals to commit crime, experts say that figure could be several times higher.
“There are surely more unreported cases of murder in Lagos than the official figures from the police,” sociologist, Abbey Shobayo, told Saturday PUNCH. “The city is a crimogenic one going by its population and unequal opportunities for survival. As a result of these attributes, individuals are pushed to embrace deviant behaviours in the quest of satisfying personal targets and or desires.
“But Lagos is not the only place. Other cities across Nigeria are also witnessing a rising wave of senseless murders. Even though we can attribute mental instability to many of these premeditated murders we have seen in recent times, we must not also forget to look at the social factors that have made such tragedies possible.
“People are hungry, there are no jobs to absorb them and daily survival has become increasingly difficult. At moments like this, it is not strange to have people shooting above their frustration limit by even taking to acts of violence. Without addressing the social factors responsible, it will be tough getting to the root of these rising cases of murders we have seen,” he said.
Psychologist, Stephen Udi, says the disturbing development is a reflection of rising rate of ‘silent’ mental cases among many Nigerians today.
According to him, while most violent cases could be linked to psychiatric disorders in clinical sciences, there are instances where such individuals would show no signs of abnormality until when they had caused some form of damage much later.
“People have different reasons for committing murder,” he said. “It may be premeditated or spur of the moment action. Whichever way it was committed, such behaviour can only emanate from a sick mental formation.
“There are so many people roaming the streets of Nigeria today without knowing that they are indeed mentally imbalanced especially because they don’t exhibit any form of violence. The truth is that such disorder is latent in them and shall surely be manifested given the right type of excitement. People must be vigilant and take note of funny behaviours by others around them,” he added.
A recent investigation by Saturday PUNCH indeed revealed a rise in mental illness cases in Nigeria. According to the report, psychiatrists, who linked the development to economic hardship, depression, distress and anxiety, among others, explained that while most psychiatric disorders were related to drug abuse prior to 2016, non-drug related cases were now on the increase.
Udi said such findings should worry the society and push it to pay more attention to the sanity of citizens especially with cases of murder gaining prominence by the day.
At Gbagada, four residents and others at large allegedly beat up Samuel Odukoya, while on a revenue drive in the community.
The residents were later arraigned before a Yaba Chief Magistrate’s Court, Lagos on charges of stealing, breach of peace and assault.
According to the prosecutor, Inspector Roman, on March 3, 2017, the accused persons – Jide Taiwo, Emeka Ndubisi, Anuoluwapo Odukoya, Blessing Aloysius and others who are still at large, “pushed down and beat up and punched Odukoya at No 20 Ifateludo Street, Ifako Gbagada Lagos.’
The prosecutor alleged that they also stole the sum of N27,000 from Odukoya while he was being manhandled.
They were also accused of stealing property of the Ikeja Electric.
Aloysius who lives at No 30, Diya Street, Ifako, Gbagada, was accused of illegally connecting electricity that was disconnected by the Ikeja Electric on March 4, 2017, an offence said to be punishable under Section 166 of the Criminal Laws of Lagos State, 2011.
The prosecutor said the offence amounted to stealing electric power.
However, the accused persons pleaded not guilty to the charges.
The Chief Magistrate, P.A Ojo, granted them bails in the sum of N50,000 each with two sureties in like sum.
He adjourned the case till April 5, 2017.
In the second assault case, a driver of Ikeja Electric, Gabriel Fapetu, was assaulted and injured while on cash drive at Otunba Onakoya Street, Mende, on March 13, 2017.
The men were arrested later by the police from the Anthony Police Division.
The suspects – Endurance Godfrey (22), Samson Ihonre (32) and Adeoye Ayodeji (30) were detained but released on bail the following day.
The Divisional Police Officer of the area, Abaniwonda Tokunbo, said the suspects would be charged to court on Monday.
One fateful day, when everyone had gone to work, my uncle (my mum’s younger brother), came to the bathroom where I was taking my bath, flung himself at me and raped me. I fainted out of shock and was revived. Some weeks later, I discovered I was pregnant and was forced to terminate the pregnancy.
To worsen my plight, till date, my parents and entire family refuse to believe my uncle raped me as he denied it. I’ve been treated with so much disdain because according to them, I want to disorganise the family while my uncle goes scot-free. My mother in particular has made life so unbearable for me, I feel so worthless, hopeless and useless. I took solace in my friend who encouraged me to join their group of prostitutes. I graduated from secondary school at age 14. I was a brilliant child.
However, today, I am a s*x worker to make ends meet after being neglected by my parents. I am traumatised and depressed and I need to see you before I do something silly to myself. Where may I find you please?
Queen letter was given a reponse in th following write-up:
My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,
Please pardon me for skipping the topic I began discussing last week. Queen’s story made me so angry such that I wish I could hold a world press conference right away on our satanically and unapologetically patriarchal society and get the world to save the future of Nigerian girls who will be responsible for future Nigeria! Abi, are they not the ones to bring an entire generation into the world if their wombs remain intact? I hear all sorts of stories every day of the evils that men do especially to the girl-child. It’s so disturbing that it’s giving me grey hair already.
Why should anyone go through what Queen is dealing with? What baffles me is how her mother of all people would malign her because of her younger brother. You could say her brother has been her benefactor however, that is not a reason for her to defend him in a situation like this. If care is not taken, Queen’s life is just going to spiral down into complete darkness. Already, she has become a sex worker whose body is a merchandise for these same men. She may never ever get her bearing right. A child who left high school in flying colours at age 14 is one who certainly loves to study and make the most of her brain. What happens to this intellectual gusto?
Now, I imagine Queen’s daily activity, I imagine how her great dreams for a beautiful future are being snuffed out daily. I imagine how she doesn’t want to know what anyone could think about her trade. I imagine how lost she is in the wilderness of life; I imagine how she cries morning, day and night. I even imagine how she wants to peel off her body when she showers after sleeping with these men-all because her family refused to treat her with love or even care for her needs. Yes, we can all wonder why she has to join the sex work; after all there should be another way out.
I tell you, you will be shocked at the number of young ladies around you, who are sleeping with one man or the other to make ends meet. They don’t have to stand on the road at night. But why should things keep getting worse for the younger female folk? They are the ones who are sexually abused right from childhood even before they reach puberty. Before long, they begin to fall in love and when not prepared for that stage, have their hearts fatally broken over and over and over again. T
hey get to the university and some beastly men their father’s age make life hellish for them and I tell you most of these girls succumb out of fear and because no one is speaking out for them! It continues in their work place then they end up in marriage with a devil re-incarnate who will batter them and treat them the way animals shouldn’t be treated, like they were picked from a dustbin and their mother would be the first to tell them “God hates divorce,” and “what will people say if you leave him?” I am bible compliant- in fact it is our manual at Girls Club but I am yet to find any scripture which encourages defiling and debasing womanhood! What a pity? What a pitiful pity? I have seen women whose destinies were ripped apart by men-their husbands. Now, when your mother hasn’t got your back, who would?
Girls…girls…girls, the world is extremely hostile. You need to concentrate on the right things and your future and brace yourself up for the challenges of life. God has created you beautiful and given you certain privileges, innate skills and spiritual gifts to live a most enjoyable life. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO DEPRIVE YOU OF THIS! GOD LOVES YOU, SO DO I!
2. Exchange kisses. Believe it or not, many people (and this includes women) don’t kiss their partner when they’re having sex. Why? Perhaps because the positioning doesn’t allow for it or they are too eager to climax and feel that it might break the rhythm. Nevertheless, it is highly recommended that you try and kiss your partner during the act. It will only add to the experience.
3. Don’t jump the gun! While many people enjoy an aggressive partner, biting any part of their body before they are aroused may lead to pain and discomfort (and might even lessen the chances of any further action) or simply scare them off. So, ensure your partner is fully excited before you bite their ear, shoulders, neck or any other part of their body.
4. Examine all the erotic parts! Genitals are great, no doubt, but you should pay attention to other parts of your lover’s body and focus for some time on their entire body — knees, wrists, back and stomach are highly erogenous zones for men and women. Gently caressing these areas will help excite your partner further; in turn, increasing the chances of them pleasuring you back.
5. Don’t dump your weight on your partner. Even if you’re a girl! It’s okay to lose yourself in the moment every once in a while, and go crazy on your lover. But when you’re lying on top of them, you must be careful not to drop your weight on them. Chocking them or hindering their ability to breathe will kill the moment and any chances of some good action.
6. Don’t climax too soon or too late. This one is especially for men. You need to have good control on your muscles to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. Too soon and you may leave your partner unsatisfied; too late and it might leave your partner feeling as if they’re pumping iron at the gym. To avoid this, spend a lot more time on foreplay.
7. Warn before climaxing. If you’re going to let go — and this also applies even to women — you need to tell your partner beforehand. Your partner deserves to know.
8. Don’t be too quiet! Do you like to hear it when your partner is having a good time? So, pay them the same respect and speak up when you’re enjoying yourself. Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, ‘that feels so good,’ will encourage them and educate them further on your moan zones.
9. Don’t be mechanical! It may feel comfortable to you to pump away like you do at the gym, but you’ll quickly discover that most people don’t enjoy such an act. Mix it up a little bit; go fast at times, then slowly. Be creative and you’ll find yourself enjoying some variation too.
Here’s what she said in her chat with Saturday beats;
“I don’t want to talk about my relationship with Adeniyi Johnson but it is not true that I threw a party for him. It is a lie. It is a lie; Toyin Aihmakhu never threatened me to stay away from Adeniyi Johnson.”
Ogochukwu said, “I teach in a computer school at Onitsha, Anambra State. This is my very first time of having anything to do with drugs.
“I smuggled drugs to save my sick child. The doctor said that my child has a hole in the heart. I met many people for help but nobody was willing to help me except a drug baron.
“My son is currently struggling for survival at the hospital in Nairobi. The baron who is from Tanzania promised to pay me $2,000 for my child’s medical bill. I am very worried about the condition of my son.”
However, the Chairman/Chief Executive of the NDLEA, Muhammad Mustapha Abdallah, dismissed that notion, adding that no excuse is tenable for crime.
“No explanation is tenable for committing crime. Drug trafficking is a criminal offence and the suspect will be charged accordingly.”
“The suspect’s action only complicated his condition because he is here facing a criminal charge while the responsibility of taking care of his sick son now rest solely on the wife” Abdallah stated.
Anukaenyi Bob-Manuel Ogochukwu who is married to a Kenyan lady hails from Anambra State.